Category: A Survivor’s Journey From Victim to Advocate

I AM SORRY…To Certain Special People…

I am sorry. I am. I didn’t intend to hurt anyone. With all do respect…I am hurt. Yes, hurt, All of you don’t see my pain. I loved your loved one. I truly did. He was the abuser. Not me.

Please don’t continue to c over for him. Enough damage already.

 

 

I wish you all the best,

Melissanne

 

Dr. John H. Velyvis, My Ex- Husband is My Abuser, and He Wants Me Dead. It is Not a Question of If, but a Question of When. I Am In Danger Everyday of Being Killed by This Man. I Have Been Bullied into Silence Until Now. I Have Been Hiding Out Since 2013. I Finally Left Him in the Fall of 2016. Hiding the Truth Has Been Harmful. He Hired a Crooked Defense Attorney. My Health and Recovery Has Been Harmed by Silence. Someone, Please Help Me. This is not a Joke. Don’t Allow Corruption to Prevail. Evidence Shows Abuse.

I first published this blog in 2017. I froze. I just couldn’t manage to verbalize my story. Over time, this is changing. I pubished details in 2018, and was admonished for doing so. That in itself, an injustice. I ended up deleting prior posts because of it.

The fact of the matter is I suffered abuse at the hands of a trusted companion. I was bullied into silence more than a few times. I have a right to speak out. Everything I post will be true. Everything I have posted thus far is true.  I am a survivor of violence. I can post for certain that MONEY and PRESTIGIOUS OCCUPATION can allow a perpretrator tor roam free to abuse again.

My abuser was arrested in the summer of 2013 for hurting me.  I refused to cooperate with the county District Attorney at the time. The perpetrator’s criminal defense attorney, and his own mother bullied me into submission at the time.  I look back and wonder how I could have been so weak at the time. Yet, I was weak.

Less than one year later, my abuser was arrested again for assaulting me. I am embarrassed to say that I was once again a weak fool, bullied into silence. The abuse continued for years. When I finally did come forward, particular entitities covered up for my  abuser. I believe it had to do with 1. Social Status; 2. Abuser’s Attorney; 3. Judge Beverly Wood of Marin County, CA (judicial misconduct.)

 

Non-Fatal Strangulation, A Journey of Survival and Overcoming Trauma….Silent No More…

The next several posts detail my journey of injury, medical procedures and healing. I attempt to break the silence that trauma victims endure. I was one such victim, but now breaking out to speak fully of my experience. This blog is simply evolving as I begin to break through the writing blocks. I have been frozen time and time again, and not completely thawed. I have also been threatened into silence. Why should I cover up the physical injuries I have been left to endure? I want to hop, skip, run, play with my grand-baby, and enjoy everyday life. I hope you find strength to speak out for those who have been marginalized, sidelined and scapegoated. Speak the truth………..

I Sustained Painful Vertebral Fractures at L-1, and T-Spine from Assaults/Batteries and L-1 is now repaired!

 

How on earth I hobbled around for the length of time I did with vertebral fractures is beyond me. The hard Boston brace helped tremendously. It was molded to my body, sent out to be expertly fitted, and arrived just in time for me to board a plane to see my father one last time before his death.  I went back and forth between a walker and a cane. I tried everything imaginable to heal without surgery. I had started with a body weight of  127 pounds before mulitple assaults, and ended up with a BMI of obesity. Something had to be done to reverse this.

I finally went under July 2018 to have one of the vertebral fractures repaired! L-1 was bad. So painful. Here it is Memorial Day Weekend 2019 and I am just now feeling stable in this area. I am not out of the woods, but I have made great stride. I have managed to get my BMI back down to “healthy!” The physicians and surgeons at UCSF have helped me greatly. Earlier in June 2018, I went under for a 3 hour angiogram. This facility was top notch and helped me make it through. I highly recommend them. I also want to give a shout out to Mount Tam Spine Center as they treated me for years. They have performed rhizotomies and nerve root injections as needed.

I am a survivor. I am blessed to have a wonderful support group and love of family and friends. I am just now starting to be able to write about this fully. I am here if anyone needs to reach out for support. I understand the shame involved in speaking out.

Sustained Elbow and Shoulder Injury From 2016 Attack but Doing Better Now

Elbow Incision 1

After conventional methods failed, I finally went under the knife in February 2018 to repair my torn elbow. It took about a year to fully heal. Click on the link above to view my lovely two inch incision. I can now use my Chef’s knife to chop, dice, slice and can lift pans much easier. I still have a labral tear in my shoulder and a torn cuff. I’ll need to have surgery at some point. Overall, doing much better. I do my physical therapy daily.

Non-Fatal Strangulation Bruising Set In…

Novato Community Hospital Emergency Room Visit January 13, 2015

I turned a Law Enforcement Officer away. I regret that.

 I was strangled. I survived. I don’t believe this is something that one can ever get over. Yes, one may get past it, but never actually over it. Strangulation Bruising